Wednesday, July 24, 2013

Friends….


We were created by God to need each other. We are not meant to be alone in the world, we need friends and we need to be a friend.

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

9 Two are better than one,
because they have a good return for their labor:
10 If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.
But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.
11Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.
But how can one keep warm alone?
12 Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.


 Are you convinced that the risk of having close friends outweighs the rewards? As women, emotional demands are vast. One of the ways God replenishes the emotional drains we experience is through friendships. There is no love without risk. Every friendship must contain the element of risk if it is to grow and mature, reaching its full potential.

If we're easily offended or hold on to bitterness, we'll have a hard time making friends. No one is perfect. We all make mistake. If we take a truthful look at ourselves, we'll admit that we bear some of the blame when things go wrong in a friendship. A good friend is quick to ask forgiveness and ready to be forgiving.

1 Peter 4:8

8 Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.



We cannot make the mistake of assigning the responsibility for our happiness to our friends. When we depend on a friend to make us happy that will set that friend up for failure in the relationship and positions that friendship for inevitable destruction.

Proverbs 27:10

10 Do not forsake your friend or a friend of your family,
and do not go to your relative’s house when disaster strikes you—better a neighbor nearby than a relative far away.


When we have friends, we need to remember, friends will hurt us, friends will wound us. Friendship knows the weaknesses are there, but chooses to love anyway. Friendship is always costly but it is always well worth the cost.

Proverbs 18:24

24 One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin,
but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.


 

Jesus is the finest example of a true Christian friend. His love for us is sacrificial, never selfish. He demonstrated it not only through his miracles of healing, through his humble service, and then ultimately, when he laid down his life on the cross.

 
If we choose our friends based only on what they have to offer, we'll rarely discover the blessings of a genuine friendship. When we value our friend's needs above our own, we are on our way to loving like Jesus, and in the process, we might just gain a true friend.


John 15:12-14

12 My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.
13 Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. 14 You are my friends if you do what I command.